EPISODE DESCRIPTION

The conversation kicks off with a comedic rant about the absurdities of the American medical system. Picture a doctor obsessed with billing as much as possible, leaving patients wondering if they’ll ever get that long-overdue STD panel. It’s a clusterfuck of epic proportions, where preventative care takes a backseat to profit margins and patients are left feeling like they’re just another lifetime revenue stream.

 

But fear not, because our ladies aren’t afraid to tackle taboo topics with gusto. One proudly declares their love for s*xual freedom, proclaiming themselves a card-carrying member of the “slut club” (with no shame whatsoever). They dish out advice on responsible exploration and consensual encounters, all while dropping truth bombs about the importance of sexual health education.

 

Amidst the chaos, there’s plenty of room for laughter – especially when the conversation turns to the hilarious mishaps of intimate moments gone wrong. From accidental cervix kicks to awkward encounters with delivery drivers (no, not that kind), they share stories that will have you rolling on the floor with laughter.

 

But it’s not all jokes and giggles – there’s a serious side to their banter too. They shine a light on the shocking disparities in maternal mortality rates, particularly among marginalized communities, and the urgent need for better access to quality care. With a mix of humor and compassion, they advocate for women’s rights and the importance of supporting individuals through every stage of life.

 

As the conversation winds down, they reflect on the evolving landscape of sexuality in the digital age. With p*rn at our fingertips and unrealistic expectations at every turn, they remind us that laughter and authenticity are the keys to true intimacy. Whether you’re navigating the healthcare maze or exploring your wildest fantasies, one thing’s for sure – life is a lot more fun with a little laughter along the way.

 

So buckle up and get ready for a wild ride through the highs and lows of life in an AFAB body. With these two at the helm, you’re guaranteed to laugh, learn, and maybe even blush a little. After all, when it comes to sex, laughter truly is the best medicine. RECAP Annie & Elle delve into a wide array of topics, from the complexities of the American healthcare system to the nuances of sexual liberation and intimacy within relationships. They navigate through the maze of women’s healthcare including adenomyosis, pcos (polycystic ovary syndrome), menorrhagia, menopause, perimenopause, cervical biopsies, c-sections, HPV, Herpes, hormones and everything else that can go wrong in the stirrups. The girls delve into the stigma surrounding s*xual health and personal agency. The discussion touches on the importance of destigmatizing s*xual health and providing comprehensive education and resources to empower individuals to make informed decisions about their bodies. They confront the alarming statistics surrounding infant and maternal mortality rates, particularly among marginalized communities, and the systemic barriers that perpetuate disparities in access to quality care. They advocate for the recognition of women’s autonomy, health equity and the importance of providing comprehensive social support throughout the birthing process.

Credits

We would like to give a shout out to Don Hertzfeldt, whom we love, and whose puffball we borrowed from his Rejected cartoons. Likewise, we’d like to shout out GWAR and Lzzy Hale. If you haven’t seen the full video for The Cutter, we recommend checking it out.

 

SHOW NOTES

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6780820/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2022/04/19/heres-the-current-thinking-on-hormone-therapy-its-not-what-you-heard-20-years-ago/?sh=789659b34787

https://www.aarp.org/health/conditions-treatments/info-2018/menopause-symptoms-doctors-relief-treatment.html

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/menopause-is-ubiquitous-so-why-is-it-often-stigmatized-and-ignored

https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2024/01/12/perimenopause-not-feeling-like-myself/

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/perimenopause/symptoms-causes/syc-20354666

https://www.today.com/health/medical-weight-bias-causes-misdiagnosis-pain-depression-t153840

https://www.npr.org/2022/06/23/1107166691/medical-bias-against-obesity-is-preventing-patients-from-receiving-proper-care

https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2023/jan/us-health-care-global-perspective-2022

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2021/maternal-mortality-rates-2021.htm

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/pressroom/sosmap/infant_mortality_rates/infant_mortality.htm

The New York Times: Why America’s black mothers and babies are in a life-or-death crisis

https://www.propublica.org/article/stillbirths-pregnancy-mothers-parents-racial-disparities

https://hr.nih.gov/benefits/leave/paid-parental-leave-ppl/nih-guide-parental-leave#:~:text=Requires%20supervisory%20approval.-,Sick%20Leave,notified%20otherwise%20by%20a%20physician.

https://www.dol.gov/sites/dolgov/files/WHD/legacy/files/FMLA-32.pdf

https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/997872?form=fpf

https://www.ohsu.edu/womens-health/closing-gender-pain-gap-your-gynecologist-has-pain-control-options

 

Transcript (Auto Generated):

hey welcome Annie how are you doing how are

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you liking the new job are you living your best life this week I’m living my life I don’t know if it’s the best but

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it’s okay um I I like the environment

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that I’m in and I’m not working in a kitchen anymore so

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I’m into it um yeah yeah I work with nice people so that is also kind of

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wonderful that is a huge things on your end they’re going okay

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I’m I’m ready for the aliens to come I’ve been mentally and emotionally

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prepared this week because I have been poked and prodded to the point of like

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not even noticing that I’m being poked and prodded anymore so the aliens want

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to come get me and run some experiments I’m not going to be traumatized I’m just going to be like probe me baby probe me

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so yeah um yeah so I had my very first mammogram this week which was times huh

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yeah it was an experience I mean I was prepared for

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the weirdness I was going to be having my breasts like smashed in between a

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plate while somebody finagles them like I was emotionally prepared for that but

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no one told me I was going to have to do [ __ ] yoga while this is going on so

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awkward it is so awkward and like you have to basically

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like get on top of the machine and like hold these handles and like the lady’s

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like a little more to the right a little more to the left now like lean this way and at like some point you’re just like

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standing there in like crane pose or something I don’t know what you pose and

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they’re like don’t breathe yeah like okay I’m not going to

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breathe so that wasn’t that bad it was just super weird and then after that I had a a transvaginal ultrasound and an

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endometrial biopsy so it was just like a really event week

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for my vagina um and then I got like the rudest letter that I could have possibly

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gotten in the mail from The mamography Labb um I had already gotten a call from

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the mamogram people telling me that I had to come back for an ultrasound and an additional mamogram which is pretty

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normal when you have your first one so they sent me a letter in the mail and this is like after I I have had this

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conversation I know that I have some I need somebody else to like look at my boobs again and they don’t give me any

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relevant information about my exam but they tell me there’s like two boxes and

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one says you do not have dense breasts with a check mark in it and underneath the

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other one it says you have press and like I was like that is the rudest [ __ ] that you could ever get in the mail

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yeah it’s so weird when I had gotten it I was like why why am I supposed to care

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about this like I’m already paranoid because I have to go

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back and now you’re telling me they’re not dense okay whatever that is

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100% what went through my mind I’m like I’ve already talked to a human being they’ve already told me something is

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weird on that mogram and that they need to go back and look at it and then I get

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the second letter and the only thing they have to tell me via mail very

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officially is that I do not have dense breasts nothing else about anything

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except that I was like thank you thank you it’s the rudest letter I have ever

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received in the mail ever yeah it’s so

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weird how did you feel when you got yours it was just weird because you know I I

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think I’m the first one of our group who had to get one done so I didn’t know

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anything I forgot about the letter until I saw yours I was like oh it’s for all

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of us cool but I didn’t know what to expect and like that letter just was

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like well then I had to like Google it and I’m like okay well what the [ __ ] is that supposed to me well like should I

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be worried that I don’t have it like I don’t know what to do with this yeah the

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whole experience of a mammogram is so strange and you you do have to get in these like weird like you’re like

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hugging the machine but you also got to push your tits out and your face is like smashed against a glass and you’re like

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okay just take the freaking x-ray just do it

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okay you have a being like weird don’t breathe don’t breathe okay you can

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breathe don’t breathe it’s just like this is awesome you can’t wear deodorant either

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so you’re also swe this is happening I was sweating because it was summertime

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and I’m just like oh my God what if my armpits start to smell really bad while I’m in this weird position and she’s

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like adjusting my boob like all I think about where my armpits

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no that’s like makes sense it’s just like a weird violating

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experience and then I after that I got like the transvaginal ultrasound on

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which is always terrible yeah yeah like it was really

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weird cuz they kept texting me for like weeks being like only one guest in the

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ultrasound room right and I’m like this is not for

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a baby like you guys know I’m getting [ __ ] camera shoved up not camera but

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like you know this is like a vaginal ultrasound not like an ultrasound of my

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uterus with a child in it and like I got like five text messages telling me to

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keep the guest at a limit of one and I was like should I invite somebody to

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this and we can have tea maybe and like some cookies while somebody’s like shoving a wand up my Pikachu and like it

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was just really weird it was like also like a really nice doctor’s

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office so as she’s doing this I have this like huge screen in my face that’s

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like coming down from the ceiling and like that’s great if you’re having a

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baby it’s not great if you’re looking at like a picture of your surface like

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I was like this is so [ __ ] weird man so then I went and like I had these all

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done in one day and then I went like to the other side of the doctor’s office and they gave me uh endometrial

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biopsy which was like not fun at all if anybody’s had like an IUD placed or had

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like their cervix like manually opened up for any reason it is like incredibly

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[ __ ] painful but this was like this didn’t last as long because they weren’t leaving anything behind like an IUD or

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like taking something out they just like shoved a very large Q-Tip up there to

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collect a specimen I don’t know man like everybody at the doctor’s office was super cool

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but I was just like man could you imagine if like men’s screening for like

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testicular cancer was having their nuts smashed in between two pieces of glass

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right while somebody else like their balls around and they stood on one foot

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like men would never get diagnosed with anything until it was too late if they

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did that them like I was just like man this is terrible I hate this I felt

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violated for like two days afterwards I was just like I don’t want

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to go to the doctor anymore but I will say out a Four Hands

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agree that my breasts may not be dense but they are firm and they’re still per tury so F that rude ass letter I got in

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the mail I still have great tits and I love them so [ __ ] you radiologist

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office that’s right yeah that’s uh that’s always real

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fun having being poked and prodded and

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yeah terrible I hated going through all that it’s [ __ ] horrible you just feel

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like an experiment cuz like yeah everything that they do in a gy

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gynecological sense is like uncomfortable feeling like even if you took the shame

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out of it it is at worst uncomfortable at best painful or I mean at best

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uncomfortable at worst incredibly painful there’s like never any anesthesia involved and they’re just

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like you’ll feel some pressure some my favorite you’ll feel some pressure there might be some mild cramping and

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I’m like [ __ ] what is your opinion of mild cramping did you read that in a medical

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textbook written by a man that the cramping is mild like yeah it [ __ ] hurts

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like you’ve had like painful experiences before

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right yeah I mean when I was like going through all that bleeding so I bled for

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like almost two years straight and I had to go

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to several different doctors uh I had to like change

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hospitals because like the first set of doctors were like very inept and like

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just didn’t want to help me but uh I had to get the ultrasounds now when I had my

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um they went up in there and they like scraped the tissue out so they could

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test it that they put me in Twilight for that [ __ ] I’m a whm and I will tell

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people I am I can’t I can’t deal with pain like I’m just not gonna do that but

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I remembered when I used to get Pap smars like they would even hurt even though they’re not supposed to it just

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was like that pinching on the inside of the

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body hurts and I don’t care what anybody he says and like after I had my

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hysterctomy it took me a long time to like not have pain and I don’t know if they’re like

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they’re used to just dealing with people who’ve had children it seems like women who had children handled the hysterctomy

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a lot better I did not handle it well and I was like I need more drugs like

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I’m in so much pain and I like blood a little bit cuz I was a dumbass and like

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kept trying to do stuff and like you know they when it comes to

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women the medical industry does not care and like they don’t care about the

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suffering and like I mean I had a whole organ taken out of my body and like they

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had to like make a new cervix because they took my cervix and like it was a

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major surgery and I was just like I can’t get more pain Killers like are you

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[ __ ] kidding me you took out my entire uterus and cervix and it was painful in every way possible

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so yeah when it comes to like medical stuff I just now I know I’m supposed to

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get you know I haven’t I didn’t go to the gynecologist for my yearly they when

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I got my mamogram I had to do the the followup and get an ultrasound and I

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have cysts because I have hormone problems but then they wanted me to go for another one in another six months

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and they keep wanting me to come back every six months and I’m like you know what I’m [ __ ] done I am done being

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touched all the time I went through like a it was a few years of like constantly

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being like poked and proded and I just like cannot handle it now

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so whatever I will get what I need when I feel like I need it which is kind of

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terrible but I need a break from all the doctors because it was a lot and they don’t care they don’t like think about

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oh I’m all inside your body oh I’m like you know constantly like just the

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ultrasound they get kind of rough sometimes with it it’s like you’re in my

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body can you like calm down cuz this is not comfortable yeah and it just it’s

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wild to me how it’s like they are so disconnected with the fact that like

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this vagina is like attached to me and I can feel everything that you’re doing

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right now exactly so weird some doctors are like really great at doing I have

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like noticed with how many doctors I’ve had just like being in different states

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and like whatever that like some doctors are really good at doing certain things and

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some are not like I’ve had incredibly painful pop smars and then I’ve had ones

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that are like not painful and I feel like they’ve gotten more painful as I’ve gotten older and I

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don’t know I think it might have to do with the plastic speculum this is just

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me you know thinking because when I first started getting them we had metal speculums but like it doesn’t start

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hurting until they like start really cranking on that thing and then it’s like the pressure is there and then some

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people will stick that swab up there like they’re brushing your teeth or

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something like and I’m like no you can plenty of cells without like trying to

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[ __ ] impale me and have that [ __ ] brush come out my mouth like it’s AIX

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collect this [ __ ] cells and get out of my vagina so I’ve noticed like some doctors are more skilled than others but

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it’s [ __ ] terrible experience I hate it like and I feel like I I actually

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prefer men gynecologists I feel like they are much more gentle and the man

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who is the one who really helped me and like got me like where I needed to

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be he’s much older like he graduated med school in

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1969 and man I never had a doctor like him before he just he was so gentle and

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so fast and like you know like when I was going through all the symptoms like

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the first set of doctors were like you need to lose weight and I was like you’re not understanding like I just

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gained all this weight like really fast like something’s wrong and like the

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gynecologist I got an argument with her and I left the office crying because

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she’s like there’s nothing I can do for you because we’re fighting about progesterone and it made me feel really

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bad and it wasn’t helping me so and that was a woman and so after that I was like

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no I’m going back to a male gynecologist they’re just they listen to me more than

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the females do my regular doctor is a female but my gynecologists I’m going to

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stick to the men they’re just they’re way more gentle with my body than and I don’t know because maybe females are

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like I know what you can take cuz this is what I can take but like yeah the older I’ve gotten the more things hurt

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and like I can’t take that [ __ ] so I think maybe like too there could be something of the fact that like because

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I’ve had like so a good male doctor is probably conscious of the fact

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that he doesn’t not have a cervix so he doesn’t know what it feels like to have someone like swabbing your service with

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a brush like a pipe cleaner essentially right yeah so they’re

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probably like a little bit more delicate because they’re like oh like I don’t

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know what this feels like I don’t want to do this too hard you know maybe I

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don’t know like I’ve had really bad experiences with male doctors and female

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doctors like my current doctor is a woman and I really love her and she was

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like there’s so many options to fix the problems that you’re having and that was the first time I’ve heard that like um

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and she’s like yeah we can there’s there’s options you know come back for another appointment after we get your

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biopsy results which they came back everything is negative which is great there’s nothing weird going on in my

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uterus which I’m very happy about but she’s like you know we well you have

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options we’ll discuss all of them and I was like wow like she’s talking me like I’m a human being which is like a first

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I get the whole like progesterone or the like go on the mini pill or [ __ ] you cuz

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you smoke and like I know that’s my fault but the mini pill regardless has always just made me bleed like

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consistently just like spotting it doesn’t work was all um yeah but I’m

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just like whatever so she’s I feel really comfortable with her but like I’ve had like traumatic ass [ __ ]

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experiences at the gynecologist and I know you have to like

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especially when you were at that teaching hospital and like what was with them like you were going in there

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bleeding and they were like there’s nothing wrong and you’re like I’ve been bleeding for months how can you tell me

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there’s nothing wrong like that was they told me it was because I well I

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was fat and I was a smoker at the time and I like explained to them like I

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wasn’t fat three months ago like I was normal weight three regular weight three

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months ago for me normal weight and I was like my period stopped

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and then like I got all this weight on and then I just started bleeding and I haven’t stopped they tried like birth control

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they put me on the mini pill nothing was working and then um they’re

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like well you need to lose weight and I’m like you’re not understanding like I don’t feel good like my during that time

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my entire body hurt had inflammation all over my body some days where it’s like

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it was like really hard for me to get up they gave me no reason as to why

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anything was happening and then like when I got in the fight with her I had had um they G me an

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ultrasound they didn’t really run any tests or anything they just kept trying different birth controls and I’m like

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it’s not working and then they put me on like the big progesterone

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pill and I always started getting like migraines like every single day and I felt just really bad from it and I like

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mentally like I felt like a crazy person and I went there and I was like I

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can’t take this this I was like I don’t feel good and like like the migraines

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are a problem you know I was executive chef at the time like I needed to function and she’s like well I don’t

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know what else I can do for you just like that and I was like oh really well

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you can go [ __ ] yourself and I left like my God I didn’t how are you me that got

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into I that is so degrading when I left yes and when I went to the

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guy I have now and I told him he was just like no he’s like they did not

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treat you right that you’re not bleeding for two years because you’re overweight

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he’s like that it makes no sense you’re not bleeding because you were smoking cigarettes I mean I had quit before I

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went to this guy but he’s like none of what they told you is true he’s like

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there’s something wrong he actually then I got sent that’s when I got sent to the cancer and blood doctor and they ran

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like a million tests on me and then

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uh that was fine all those tests came back fine I had a little things that

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were weird like I can’t I’m not supposed to take Ibuprofen that’s something I learned during that time oh I didn’t

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know that but then yeah so now I I pretty much I take it once in a while because sometimes for

23:58

a headache it works better but I rarely even have it in the house and um yeah I

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went back to him he’s like this is what we’re going to do we’re GNA do a DNC and

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like we’re going to look at the tissues and yeah know because the hormones by

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hormones for whatever reason show up as normal when clearly like something was

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not normal but after they did the DNC and the lady he doesn’t do

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procedures anymore so I had a woman who was doing it she was also very nice they were both really great doctors and

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um you know when after the test results came back she was like they’re not so

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they look at tissues that’s simple or complex and when they’re complex they’re either cancerous or on their way mine

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weren’t quite complex but like they were [ __ ] up like something was not right and that’s why I had to like get rid of

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everything because she’s like I think this might develop into cancer but that I found out during that

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time I had PCOS and so basically they said like

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something they think the stress triggered the PCOS and that’s why my period stopped

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and I like gained all that weight and like things were just wild and I mean and I had asked about

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this since I was 19 years old every time I went to gynec Coles because I always

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have problems with my period and problems with weight gain and every single doctor was like

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you’re just overweight you if you lose the weight you’ll be fine but you know I’ve been on thinner

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and like it I still have problems it like didn’t [ __ ] matter but um yeah

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these doctors they were just way more gentle with me and like they took the time to do the T test

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where the other place didn’t they didn’t do any extra test they just looked and

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then like after my hysterctomy I sent you a picture of my uterus and it was

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the most angry uterus I’ve ever seen in my life girl when you sent me that

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picture I was like that thing is mad I was like that is an angry soad

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[ __ ] uterus I was like yeah thank God that thing is out of your body it looked

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just like it looked like it had a mind of its own it was like all inflamed it

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just looked yeah it looked like my

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cat like how my cat’s energy feels and he lik to just like [ __ ] with

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things like yeah and that’s pretty much what the uterus did it just [ __ ] with me for

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two years and like what they found is like when they cut it open I had I don’t know that it

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it’s like endometriosis it starts with an a it’s like endometriosis I don’t know it’s

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basically endometriosis growing inside of your uterus in the wall of it and

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that’s why I was constantly in all that [ __ ] pain CU like inside the uterus

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was like just [ __ ] up and like that’s why I constantly had tissue coming out

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because it was just [ __ ] was growing inside of there it was out of control and

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like I mean after they took it out it I

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finally feel it wasn’t until like the second half of last year I finally

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started to feel like myself again so it took three years for me to finally like

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feel normal and God yeah it it was it’s

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been Wild dude it is so [ __ ] up that for like years of your life this has

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been going on like since you were a kid and like people are just like nah and

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it’s like you’re having a bleeding problem right so why would they think that a pap smear and an annual exam

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where they’re just basically looking at like the vaginal walls and the [ __ ] cervix

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they can’t see into your uterus during a pap they don’t test anything in the uterus

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why would they be like there’s nothing wrong like yeah you know they don’t they

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haven’t looked because the blood isn’t coming from any of those places it’s coming from a uterus I don’t have a

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medical degree yeah and I know that like I just feel like there are so many

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people that just want to like they don’t want to deal with that they just want to like get paid by the insurance company

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and they like to tell people that if they don’t want to go on hormonal birth control that the problem is all in their

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mind and there’s nothing wrong with hormonal birth control it’s just not it doesn’t work great for everybody or not

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everybody can happen it’s not for everybody yeah cuz like I mean before

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when I was younger and I just wanted to be in birth control oh my God that [ __ ] made me crazy I could never handle it

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but so you said reminded me when I had the trans vaginal ultrasound

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so they can kind of see what was going on in my uterus you know what they told me this was at the first

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hospital there’s some blood in there but you know you’re

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bleeding really really there’s blood in there thanks for that

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like I it just was like unbelievable to me

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how ignorant those people were just like the lack of

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care and just like I’m here to get a paycheck and I and I get it it’s a job

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but like you chose to study all those years and get that

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training and like clearly you just don’t give a [ __ ] you don’t give actual [ __ ]

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about people you just wanted to say you were a doctor like I think that’s why some people are doctors just so they

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could say I’m a doctor look at me and

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you know we all suffer because of those people yeah it’s terrible and I feel

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like too like I hate to say this cuz it’s like super cliche but it wouldn’t be a cliche

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if it wasn’t true like they don’t take women seriously when you go to the

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doctor like they just don’t especially if you’re overweight you’re [ __ ] yeah

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dude when I went to the gynecologist and had to tell them what was going on with me cuz I’m having like tons of

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[ __ ] up bleeding right now and like I have my period every two weeks and it lasts

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forever and like all of this it’s just bad it’s bad it’s like Raining Blood by

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Slayer all the time in my life and like hormonally like I don’t feel good and

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I’m just tired of [ __ ] bleeding and like when I get my period is so

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incredibly [ __ ] painful that like I am like almost

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incapacitated it’s starting to like affect my livelihood because like when

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I’m at work like is very difficult to work when you’re in that much pain and

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I’m not talking about just like wild cramps like I can tell when I’m about to get my period because I start getting

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like it feels like the flute like hits me like a day or two

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before and like you just feel like everything in your body like is just

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draining out of you and then you get the period And it’s like it has gotten like

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so heavy where it just I mean if there are men listening to this like if this

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is grossing you out like it’s going to get grosser sorry but like whatever send

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it to somebody that you care about that does have a uterus but it feels like a

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[ __ ] like waterfall like you can feel the blood even with a tampon like

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squirting out of your body like I’m leaking through tampons I’m having to

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wear like a jumbo tampon like the big ones which I’ve never had to use up until like last

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like like 10 years but like now I’m having to like use those with a [ __ ]

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had cuz I’m like leaking through them and it’s like really weird when you you

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have like just like clots coming out all the time and like sometimes like it’s

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weird like when you have a tampon like you should barely feel it you shouldn’t be feeling like blood still like rushing

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out from in between your legs and then having to have like a backup on top of it that’s where I’ve been at and like I

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came armed to the doctor cuz I was like listen I was like I know I’m fat I was

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like I’m just want to let you know like I’ve lost 50 or 60 lbs and like my

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symptoms haven’t gotten any better and this was still a problem when I was a normal size like I started the

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conversation like this like before I even told her what was going on and

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she she was like she gave me this look like she understood why I was saying

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that like oh God like talked to somebody before and they did this to

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you and I was just like you shouldn’t have to be like prepared you’re like oh she’s going to yell at me because I’m

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fat and she’s going to tell me that like this is happening because I’m overweight cuz like they always say the heavy

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bleeding is because you’re overweight and like the thing is is it’s

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like when I’ve I’ve had the heavy bleeding though when I was 115 pounds so was it because I was overweight then

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like I understand that like being overweight can contribute to like heavy bleeding problems I get that I know

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there’s like a correlation there medically but this is not something that’s just because I’ve been eating bon

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bons you know and I’ve also had the weight gain too it’s like nothing on the level of what you’re deal with but it

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sucks that like going into a doctor and being like in a larger female body or a female

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body at all or you know just a nonis male body just a we just say nonis male

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body having to come in with like your arguments set up already as to like why

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you should see me as a human and why you should treat me like and take me seriously not making this up it’s like

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[ __ ] up and I feel bad that you’ve had to experience that as well like how many

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of us have had to experience that like it’s [ __ ] stupid it makes me mad

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well you know uh I found out you know

Men Make Bad Women’s Healthcare Decisions and even worse Products

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um like pads when they like test pads they they they didn’t use

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blood to test pads until like the past few years that’s why pads don’t have

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absorbency that like we actually need because a bunch of men were using like

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[ __ ] other sub es on there which is not the same as blood right so you have

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like you have that and we already know all like medical

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testing up again up until recently have been only on men they

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don’t they don’t take the time to like find out about women and like our bodies

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and like how we function I think like the fact that the only cure for me was

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to completely take out my uterus is kind of insane like I had to

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have a hysterctomy otherwise I would have not stopped bleeding but like what if I didn’t have

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insurance like I did at the time I had great Insurance then so I could afford to like do all these things I needed to

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do and I just think about when I was younger how like you know I had very

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spotty insurance and like I was thankful you know that I

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just had period problems I had a lot of clots and stuff but like I wasn’t like

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bleeding for weeks you know so it just It’s upsetting the way that the medical

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system doesn’t care about women or care to even like explore how women work and

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then like on top of that you know we are par menopausal like I’m pretty pretty

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sure that’s kind of what set me off now that I’ve like been learning more about

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menopause because I was about 35 years old 34 35 when I started having issues

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and like you know I think that’s what kicked everything off really yeah and

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like there’s it it seems like there’s not that much that’s really known about it and like it lasts for years we go

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through this change for a long time it’s not just like oh the period stop you’re cranky and having hot flashes for year

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and that’s it no it’s like years of like hormonal

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changes and there’s no energy put into taking care of women after that point

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because we’re like all of a sudden worthless to society because we can’t have babies anymore it’s so crazy it’s

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really wild and like even menopause like they don’t put any any like there’s no

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almost no training that doctors get on menopause which is really [ __ ] crazy

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and like a lot of the information we’re getting about hormone replacement therapy being so dangerous is from like

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a really flawed study so doctors have been operating on like incomplete

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information in an understudied field for a really long time and I I know there’s a lot of doctors that are doing work

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trying and change that but it’s like everything like change is incremental and like it sucks it sucks

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being like waking up one day and being like I don’t feel like having

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sex um I have I’m sweating all the time for no reason or I’m getting nice sweats you

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know and it’s just like your body starts changing like you start carrying weight differently like the hair on your body

39:23

changes like the hair on your head changes and like like no one has that

39:29

conversation with you like everybody tells us we’re going to get our period when we go through sex head or our

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parents tell us about that they’re never like one day your period is going to get

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ready to stop and you’re going to turn into a [ __ ] hormonal

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ass miserable person for 5 to 10 years no one says that and we deserve better

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than that as women like we way better than that I [ __ ] hate it and it’s like I’m

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still getting my period now but like I can tell that I’m par menopausal because like this is

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not this is not who I’ve been for like this is not how the body I’ve lived

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inside for like my entire life this is not what it feels like so I know I’m

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going through some changes and yeah it’s [ __ ] stupid man it makes me so angry

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yeah it is stupid and I feel like it’s incredible that half the population goes

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through all these things but like there’s no time taken to

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take care of women going through these things you

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know and even like I don’t know if it’s because we have more just a

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lack of community and the lack of like

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extended family like living together but you know remember one day I was like

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have your eyebrows all of a sudden just started being crazy and like hair

41:10

pointing in whichever way I I like called my mom one day I was

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like Mom do your eyebrows do this she’s like yeah she like one day it just happens and I’m like I feel like if we

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all were like closer and live together like these discussions would happen yeah

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but that’s not a thing anymore so like we are losing out because we’re

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not finding out from the older generation like what we were not there

41:40

to see what they’re going through so like we are not prepared whatsoever for

41:46

what’s coming we have no clue it’s just going to be one day you wake up and you’re like why is this happening to me

41:51

right now I know I feel too though like the older Generations like my parents generation

41:59

for example like there’s so much shame around like menopause and hormones or

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like vaginas or blood or any of that stuff no

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like that they like would never discuss that like

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you have to tell somebody that they’re going to start bleeding out of their vagina one day so that they don’t think

42:23

that they’re dying but you don’t have to have a conversation with somebody telling them that one day that’s going

42:29

to stop and you’re going to feel like a monster like yeah you don’t have to have

42:34

that conversation it’s not proper it’s like really shameful especially for like a generation that had so much pressure

42:41

on them to like reproduce because it’s like what they were made to do like and

42:47

I think that gets you know worse and worse the generations back that you go

42:52

so I think that that is just like something that hasn’t been normative in our society to talk about about and like

42:58

I have these two eyebrow [Music] hairs they’re like at the arch that I

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have to trim because it’s only one on each side and they get really long and

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they like curl out they look like antenna

43:17

like and I have to be sure to like trim them and like when I see them going like

43:23

that I like make sure to like push them down so they say train to not like stick

43:30

out I know it’s so funny because I never used to think about my eyebrow hair just

43:35

being wild and now I make sure when I look in the mirror I’m like are we flat today are we on my face or are we go

43:43

wherever and we look like some old man wizard here

43:49

like thing I got to look for now you have never looked like a wizard by the

43:55

way just so you know if you ever had wizard Vibes I would tell you unless you wanted wizard Vibes

44:03

if you want wizard Vibes I [ __ ] support that [ __ ] because like [ __ ] yeah

44:08

can you see all of this growing in and I you know that I’ve decided to go the

44:13

wizard route and let my eyebrows completely take over my [Laughter]

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face oh my God yeah girl I’ve had some like traumatizing ass

44:25

experiences at the gy too and like I think you know about my stalker

44:30

doctor which is like a whole another story but like there are some people that just get

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off on like calling people [ __ ] and making them feel cheap and they should

44:43

not be doctors especially not obgy so yeah I don’t know it’s

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disgusting and like I don’t I don’t know what I I feel like if you look at V all

44:57

day long and that’s your chosen profession like you studied for years to be up to your elbows in placenta and

45:04

look at vaginas all day long you should not be acting inconvenienced because you’re looking at

45:11

a vagina like I don’t understand what the

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especially like I don’t know like should I tell them about like the crazy Karen

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doctor that I had or do you not I feel like a lot of people have have

45:30

really bad experiences at the doctor and you know it helps to hear about them

45:38

from other people okay well Annie I’m sorry because I know you’ve heard this story before so I will try and keep it

Elle’s Experience with HPV, Sl*t Shaming, and a Stalker OBGYN

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to the reader digest version and those of you that do not know what reader

45:51

digest is the tldr so I

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used to be I I go have always gone every year to get a [ __ ] Pap smar and like

46:03

STD tested and like have an annual exam make sure like everything is kosher down

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there and I at you know one point

46:16

had multiple partners and I was like living my best life so I was going to

46:23

get STD tested like once every six months just because I wanted to be like on the safe side of things like I would

46:31

go and get my annual and then I would like go back and get like an SD test six months later like when I’d had you know

46:39

multiple partners it doesn’t matter like get [ __ ] tested whenever you want so

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I went in for an STD panel I like booked myself to get an STD panel ran and

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something had happened like in a situation that wasn’t

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consensual plus I had like consensual partners and I just wanted to be safe

47:07

like and make sure that like I was on the up and up I had good practices but

47:12

like the one thing that happened was not a good ideal situation

47:19

obviously I don’t there was like anyways I was at risk of like Contracting an STD

47:25

after being sexually assaulted so I went and like made an appointment and like in

47:30

my mind like I knew like what had happened was wrong but like I didn’t it

47:36

took me years like process that that was like what happened to me so like I went into the doctor it’s my OBG YN who was

47:43

always like kind of a [ __ ] but I was just like whatever she’s just Frosty um and she was like what she’s

47:51

giving me like a [ __ ] like exam and she’s like why are you here and I’m I

47:56

was like I’m here to get STD panel run and she was like you were just here 6 months

48:03

ago and I was like I’m aware like I’ve had multiple partners she’s like you don’t use

48:09

condoms like she started just like kind of going off on me and got like really pissed off that I was like there for an

48:18

exam and then she got up and I was like well I try to use condoms and she was

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like you don’t need to come in for STD channels once every six months but I

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don’t know what your practices are and slam the door on me well and I was like what the [ __ ]

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yeah like that’s really shitty right like I always like thought most gynecologists were pretty like oh yeah

48:44

like you know you should be healthy and like do you know an STD panel and like

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that way if you have something you don’t pass it on to people like I was just trying to be responsible

48:57

you know like I wasn’t going to DARE tell her like what happened like and

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everything she like [ __ ] slammed the door on me and I was like maybe I’m imagining this and I’m thinking she’s

49:08

like way meaner than she actually is and I was just like whatever so I come back

49:15

for my annual exam and you know six months later they don’t hear anything

49:21

back and like back then they like wouldn’t call you there were no like patient portals like they only called

49:28

you like if something was wrong so I have my annual exam I’m thinking everything is normal and

49:36

like I get a call back six months after my my annual and at this point I’m like

49:42

in a committed relationship I’ve only had one partner I’m not getting STD

49:47

tested every six months so I haven’t been back in there and they call me and this this lady who’s like a receptionist

49:54

or whoever the front desk person what whatever her name was she was like why haven’t you come in and made an

50:00

appointment for your follow-up exam and I was like I don’t what F what are you

50:05

talking about she was like you have HPV and it’s been six months and doctor

50:11

so and so I’m not going to share their name is like wondering why the hell you haven’t been in here this is incredibly

50:18

dangerous and you need to [ __ ] or she didn’t swear at me but she was like you need to come in as soon as humanly

50:25

possible to have a an appointment because like your health is at risk and

50:30

it’s been six months this is what she says to me this is what the front desk lady says to me and I’m thinking whoa

50:37

like doesn’t everybody have HPV but like I don’t know how any of this works and I

50:45

mean this woman sounded like terrified and she was like really upset that I hadn’t made a follow-up appointment and

50:52

I was like can you have the doctor call me back because this is the first I’m

50:57

hearing of this so the doctor calls me back and she’s like you have HPV like you need to

51:04

come in and have a biopsy like we contacted you and let you know the test results 6 months ago and I was like no

51:11

you didn’t because they couldn’t just leave them on my voicemail and like I they didn’t call me like I would have

51:18

known that and she’s like well we notified you and you just haven’t come back in and I was like okay well like

51:25

book me an appointment and like let’s get this done and then there was like a scheduling Clash that had happened

51:32

they’re like well you can go to another location and see another doctor we have like the other location in another town that’s you know

51:41

5 miles away and I was like that’s fine it’s a new doctor it’s a new doctor’s office but it’s like the same doctor’s

51:49

firm um like the same Medical Group and the lady looks at me and is like first

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of all I’m not comfortable with you being here here because you’re not my patient she was like second of all I’m

52:01

not going to do um a biopsy on you because you have a yeast infection and

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this entire time I was like going back and forth with this doctor but I was

52:13

having chronic yeast infections which turned out to be because of the birth control that I was on like the birth

52:20

control pills causing it and she kept telling me I didn’t have yeast infections but now this new doctor is

52:27

looking at me and telling me that I have a yeast infection even though I have no discharge no

52:34

symptoms and she’s like I was like well can you give me a dlan and she was like

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I don’t believe in those you should take the 7day suppositories which don’t [ __ ] work I

52:47

always get dutan because she like and she was just like

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yeah um you bar have a yeast infection which I didn’t you can’t diagnose a

53:00

yeast infection just by looking down there like you have to do an actual swab

53:06

I didn’t have a yeast infection and she was like and you’re not my patient so I feel weird like you know poaching

53:14

somebody else’s patient and I was like that’s a really weird thing

53:19

so at this point now I’m like really embarrassed I just want to get this [ __ ] biopsy over with so now I’m

53:26

making another appointment she gives me like a prescription 7day like suppository

53:33

situation which I didn’t [ __ ] need and tells me to come back so now I’m like

53:39

humiliated I go in for my biopsy and it’s with my original doctor

53:46

and she is like well we’re just going to like numb you up like and then we’re

53:52

going to take this biopsy you’re going to feel slight pressure but it’ll be over quickly and she pulls out this like

53:58

giant needle and goes and like shoots liade right into my cervix with like no

54:04

warning okay which is [ __ ] painful [ __ ] and then takes a

54:09

biopsy and like the biopsy came back and she’s like we just need to monitor this you know at this point I’m like really

54:18

irritated with how I’ve been treated by this doctor I’m horrified I feel shamed I feel like [ __ ] shamed she’s also made

54:26

like horrible comments about my weight and how like my period bleeding is like because I’m fat I weighed 150 pounds at

54:34

the time which is like only s LBS or five pounds over weight for my

54:41

height and like she was just awful and like she basically in other words called me a [ __ ] and like I have the other

54:48

doctor yelling at me that I have a [ __ ] imaginary yeast infection and

54:53

that she basically doesn’t want to treat me because it’s taking money out of this other doctor’s

54:59

pocket so that’s really weird this is like all about money and then I lost my

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insurance so I started going to plan Parenthood where they just gave me like

55:12

transparent pricing and I could go in and get all this stuff done so I was advised to go back in six months for

55:18

biopsy so I did I went to Planned Parenthood I told them what was going on I paid them like upfront was like $400

55:26

to the biopsy and I go in there and the lady is

55:32

like um so you’re going to just feel like a a big pinch and

55:37

cramping and she was like but it doesn’t last long she was like but you’ll feel pinch and cramping because they like

55:43

take little punches out of your cervix I was like aren’t you going to numb me and she was

55:48

like she was like why would I she was like um no I would never do that she was

55:55

like actually like the um NOA like the uh injection for the Novacane lidocaine

56:02

whatever they put up there um is more painful than the actual

56:08

procedure she was like did somebody do that to you and I was like yeah and she was like they shouldn’t have done that

56:14

to you she was like it actually makes it hurt worse and it’s like a way for

56:21

doctors to Bild the insurance for like extra [ __ ] and like she went and did the

56:28

biopsy which was painful but like way less painful than what I went through in the doctor’s

56:34

office yeah so at this point it’s been past my six Monon Mark for my follow-up

56:43

biopsy and the doctor’s office is calling me again and this is not Planned

56:48

Parenthood this is my original doctor and like you need to come back in for follow-up biopsy like for this that and the other

56:55

thing like we need to make sure sure nothing’s progressed and that you’re going to clear this on your own and I was like you know I was like I

57:02

actually just had it done it plan Parenthood I was like I’ve decided I’m going to switch my care to them plus I

57:08

don’t have insurance and like I don’t really want to see anybody at your doctor’s office anymore it’s taken care

57:15

of and they just kept calling me and calling me and calling me so at this point like the phone calls

57:24

are getting more threatening and ladies making it sounding like sounding making it sound like I’m dying this is like the

57:31

receptionist and I was like this is not a big deal this is just like precancerous cells that are likely going

57:38

to clear out and like my last biopsy looked a little bit better than the first one it looks like my body’s

57:44

already doing its thing and this lady is Mak sound like if I don’t come in tomorrow for a biopsy like I’m going to

57:52

die and I was like starting to get like really freaked

57:57

out because it was just like stop calling me so I finally said like you guys are fired don’t [ __ ] call me

58:05

anymore I was like I have other care like it’s being taken care of like our

58:11

relationship is done so a year goes by they call me

58:18

again more threatening phone calls telling me like I need to come in and get a [ __ ] biopsy I need all this

58:25

stuff and at this point I’m like really [ __ ] pissed and I was like you know what can you have Dr just call me

58:35

because there’s something wrong in this conversation is there something I don’t know like can you please have her call

58:41

me so they have her call me and she gets on the phone with me and she goes what

58:47

is the problem and I was like I don’t understand what is going on with my

58:53

diagnosis like I’ve explained to the front desk that I’m getting care somewhere

58:59

else and I no longer want to be seen by you guys but I keep getting these

59:06

threatening phone calls making it sound like I’m dying or something so could you

59:12

please explain to me like what is going on is there something that I don’t know

59:19

and she said listen I’ve explained this to you it’s HPV she was is like you need to

59:27

come get biopsies every 6 months 85% of the population doesn’t have it you’re

59:32

probably going to clear the system it’s probably going to clear your system it’s not a big deal what is it that you don’t

59:41

get and I was like well then why am I getting threatening phone calls like she literally said what is it that you don’t

59:47

get in that tone of voice and I was like why is that’s why I

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don’t have a woman gynecologist [ __ ] [ __ ] like

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that they kept [ __ ] calling me dude

1:00:04

and then they were like well where are you getting care now and I was like Planned Parenthood they were like we need those

1:00:10

records I was like I already fired you why would I be giving you my medical

1:00:17

records right like don’t you think that behavior is a little bit weird like for a doctor’s office

1:00:28

it’s incredible I it’s I never heard of a doctor’s office being so aggressive

1:00:36

like that usually like they don’t give a [ __ ] I mean my experience is they don’t give a [ __ ] people are just like we need

1:00:43

that insurance money get in here let’s do this money money money I yeah I don’t

1:00:51

know what the deal was with them like it took any it took years for them to stop

1:00:57

calling me so crazy and like they kept demanding my medical records because I

1:01:04

and I don’t know why I think some of it is because they forgot to [ __ ] call me and tell me that like my Pap came

1:01:12

back at abnormal like I don’t know but it was like you cannot tell me that I’m

1:01:20

having imaginary yeast infections and then tell me that I’m having yeast infections

1:01:27

refuse not want to treat me then demand that you treat me um tell me I’m dying

1:01:33

and then tell me nothing’s wrong and then give me like brutal unnecessary

1:01:39

Medical Treatments that are incredibly painful and then forget to tell me about one of my diagnoses call me a [ __ ] and

1:01:46

then demand my future medical records like what the [ __ ] is

1:01:51

that yeah that’s insane I mean obviously is a very unorganized office and that

1:02:00

doctor is probably up their ass all the time about their billing and making sure

1:02:07

that they could bill as much as possible I just it makes me sad that

1:02:12

like the actual wouldn’t you want to give me an STD panel then wouldn’t you want to give me five STD panels right

1:02:21

maybe they don’t make as much money off of that it maybe it takes too of their

Our Medical System is Based on Profits, not Health

1:02:27

time who knows I don’t know the me American Medical industry is just a huge

1:02:35

cluster clock of stupid they do not want to do preventative medicine everything

1:02:42

is like once you have a problem and I mean we have seen this in these past few

1:02:49

years but it’s all about lifetime patience they want you on medications

1:02:57

and whatever [ __ ] else for the rest of your life and like that’s what’s

1:03:03

pushed and it’s why Americans are unhealthy other countries do like

1:03:08

preventative care so like the STP STP STD panel would be just a basic you know

1:03:17

everyday thing where here it’s like oh you must be a [ __ ] because you need to

1:03:22

get tested it’s so we’re so backwards here I first and foremost agree with what

1:03:29

you’re saying number one number two if they ever found Scott wand in my vagina

1:03:37

on one of my pap smears just know that my life should be over

1:03:44

already so there is literally zero STP in or around my

1:03:51

vagina whether we’re talking about the auto care products or anyone from that

1:03:56

band I was and finally like I am a [ __ ] [ __ ] I love it I love being a

1:04:04

[ __ ] I haven’t been a [ __ ] in like 15 years because that’s how long I’ve been with my

1:04:10

husband but I’m still a hor heart and I [ __ ] love it and I am not ashamed and

1:04:15

you know what people use your body however you like responsibly and

1:04:21

consensually and get [ __ ] tested use condoms be smart report sexual

1:04:30

assault oh yeah and just so you know they don’t um they don’t test for herpes

1:04:37

which I didn’t I didn’t know until a couple years ago um so that’s not part

1:04:43

of the panel they only test for herpes if you have like something herpes

1:04:49

related going on just so everybody knows a little PSA for you

1:04:57

yeah they don’t tell us anything and it’s [ __ ] up it’s your body you own

1:05:04

it this makes me so mad the like sheer amount of shame I feel like both of us

1:05:11

are unpacking right now is a lot dude um I’m a little nervous about it to

1:05:17

be honest a little nervous putting this out there normal though it is normal but

1:05:25

like girl I get you know you see the [Music]

1:05:31

comments people say stupid shf on the internet I’m saying stupid [ __ ] on the internet I just talked about having

Your STD Panel Came Back Positive for Scott Weiland, Ma’am

1:05:37

Scott wiland in my vagina may he rest in peace

1:05:46

[Music] but sorry ma’am I will TP I did get to

1:05:52

see them once uh not in like like the 90s but like the 2000s at some point

1:06:00

they were a shockingly really awesome show like I had so much fun and I did not know that

1:06:07

was going to be I like STP I just would like I don’t know I imagine like a small

1:06:14

little envelope of like brown like dirty heroin would be like left behind in my

1:06:21

vagina if I ever [ __ ] that guy like

1:06:26

is just falling out I don’t know he’s just he had like

1:06:32

dirt bag Vibes but I respect him as a musician not that all people that do

1:06:38

heroin are dirt bags but Scott wiland had dirt bag Vibes but he’s like a dirt

1:06:44

bag I would be friends with I just wouldn’t [ __ ] H him you know yeah he’s

1:06:49

like a he’s like the fun line cook that you want to hang out with you never [ __ ]

1:06:55

that guy like yeah but it’s fun when he shows up

1:07:01

yeah 100% yeah I don’t know man but I’m just

1:07:06

like whatever [ __ ] it like our gynecological nightmares maybe they can do something

1:07:13

good by helping people feel less Alone by the No Doubt torment other people

1:07:19

have felt at the hands of like the American Medical system and specifically

1:07:26

Obstetrics and gynecological [ __ ] portion of that um

1:07:33

entire machine and like hashtag not all OBGYNs hashtag not all Lady

1:07:42

doctors but like [ __ ] a [ __ ] a there is a large

1:07:50

problem I don’t know and I can’t imagine if like had had children what kind of medical

1:08:00

roads I would have gone down then because you hear horror stories all the time of women who have problems during

1:08:08

birth during their pregnancy after their pregnancy you know I mean the United

1:08:15

States is really terrible for

1:08:20

like um death of women have when they’re

1:08:26

having children like we’re for a first world country we’re like one of the top

1:08:31

offenders of women [ __ ] dying and I think Louisiana might be number one for

1:08:37

what is the term why is it not like infant and mother mortality or like is

1:08:44

it yeah something like that we have I think we hold the top spot for worsted

1:08:51

the mortality of the mother during birth and the mortality of

1:08:56

infants and like it gets worse like into

1:09:01

like blacker counties cuz like people just don’t listen to black women when they go in like it’s way worse for them

1:09:09

okay and like we have like such a high like infant and like like mother

1:09:15

mortality rate for black women in this country because like doctors are just

1:09:21

like oh you’re making this up oh it’s not that bad you’re just complaining and like there’s usually when somebody goes

1:09:27

in and complains like especially when they’re like pregnant it’s usually because there’s some complicated [ __ ]

1:09:33

going on yeah and like the whole thing that like like

1:09:39

C-sections like they don’t just cut they cut through your abdominal muscles and

1:09:45

your uterus Stitch you back up and they’re like yeah bye like they know

1:09:53

there’s no like physical therapy for that there’s no like support after the

1:09:59

surgery which is like some major [ __ ] surgery that’s like multiple layers of

1:10:07

tissue and you’re caring for an infant and like it just doesn’t register to these people that

1:10:14

like that is a major [ __ ] surgery and like they expect these women to just

1:10:20

like get back up and going in like six to eight weeks like we only give women what is it eight weeks if you’re at a

1:10:27

good company you have a csection like something like that you

1:10:32

know for recovery time and like you’re supposed to just be a full-time mom now and then like go back to work what the

1:10:39

[ __ ] is that yeah like that’s not fair I imagine C-sections are so difficult I

1:10:47

hate when I hear like women say uh that like women who have C-sections took like

1:10:52

the easy Road can’t imagine [ __ ] laying there

1:10:59

awake while they’re coming into to be and like at the same time this new

1:11:05

life is coming into this world but like there’s problems that’s why we’re having this

1:11:11

csection I like can’t imagine the psychological trauma that causes and I

1:11:18

know from the Hy to me they didn’t even have to cut me open and it took me forever to heal can you imagine those

1:11:25

layers how long and then you’re like caring for this infant you got [ __ ]

1:11:31

milk coming out your titch all kinds of [ __ ] come out your vagina you’re wearing those like postpartum pads it’s like

1:11:38

what a nightmare I mean I women who are mothers it was it’s not it was not for

1:11:44

me it’s not something I wanted but like I have so much respect

1:11:50

because that it’s a lot and it’s like a mentally traumatized

1:11:56

and I can’t even imagine I can’t imagine yeah I feel like we also need to

1:12:03

like stop shaming women for however they choose to have a [ __ ] baby you know

1:12:11

like right people who are like you have to have a natural birth or no drugs or

1:12:16

C-sections are bad or I’m only doing it this way and it’s like dude can we

1:12:22

please like let women just bring new life into this world and like honor that

1:12:28

in the best way they know how without having to deal with the added stress of all this [ __ ] discourse that doesn’t

1:12:34

mean anything like I’m sorry but like

1:12:40

[Music] you’re that baby is not your responsibility so you don’t need to

1:12:45

worry about whether or not that baby got drugs when they did like a [ __ ] uh

1:12:51

epidural you don’t need to worry about it you don’t have to raise that baby you’re off the hook okay you do whatever

1:12:58

is right for you like I’m not about to sit here and tell anybody especially

1:13:03

since I haven’t had a [ __ ] kid that they like shouldn’t have drugs during their labor or that they should have a

1:13:10

csection you [ __ ] kidding me like there’s a reason that I don’t

1:13:17

want any of that to happen to me and it’s because I can’t [ __ ] handle it I’m in no place to tell somebody else

1:13:23

how they can do it right right I I just like I I never I don’t

1:13:32

understand like the mommy groups and how like that all it’s decided like okay the home

1:13:40

birth is like the ultimate way you know in the 1950s women were like being

1:13:46

knocked out when they were like having their kids and the husbands are off like not at the hospital like times change

1:13:54

the way we do things change and it’s like however you feel comfortable that’s

1:14:00

way to go and like you’re lucky you have the choice now to do home birth Hospital

1:14:07

birth [ __ ] whatever other options there’s so many options now I don’t even know so you know I think it’s just

1:14:16

like the whole thing of just women being shitty towards women that I don’t

1:14:21

understand that’s like one uping I no

1:14:27

100% I feel that in like uterus havs out

1:14:35

there I want to hear your [ __ ] shitty ass stories so I can affirm your

1:14:41

experience and tell you that it really happened yeah and that you don’t deserve to be treated like that and I feel like

1:14:48

we should like 100% like share these stories with each other

1:14:55

so that we can support each other and like not [ __ ] judge each other if

1:15:00

we’re going to take over the world we need to hold each other’s hands while we’re doing it we can’t just be [ __ ]

1:15:07

to each other like we will get farther as a girl

1:15:13

gang than we will as like a [ __ ] singular person that just wants all of

1:15:19

the things like we can do it there’s power numbers let’s stop tearing each

1:15:24

other down like for stupid [ __ ] for stupid

1:15:30

[ __ ] like people treat us like this like these stories that we all just

1:15:36

like told about horrible experiences because

1:15:42

like they think we’re not going to say anything because we’re in competition

1:15:48

with each other and there was that whole dynamic and like we think we can just put other

1:15:55

other women down and like we shouldn’t be behaving that way we need to take

1:16:00

care of each other including our [ __ ] vaginas and our [ __ ] cervixes yeah or

1:16:07

prudish vaginas and prudish cervixes it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter I was I

1:16:14

was a prude girl because I don’t like sharing my energy with

1:16:20

anybody so prudes unite let’s do this let’s let’s hang out with our [ __ ]

1:16:27

girlfriends yeah vagina power

1:16:32

yes I don’t think that you’re prude you’re not

1:16:37

prude I was I’m not prude in appearance but like I was not sleeping around I

Girls Gone Mild

1:16:43

mean I have I can’t I used to get a little wild sometimes and do things that were like very out of character for me

1:16:50

and then I would come back to reality and be like uh what was that okay I

1:16:56

guess that just happened and then you know but like I didn’t I was not fond of like sleeping

1:17:05

around I just don’t I don’t like men that much honestly like I like being

1:17:10

friends with men but I don’t like spending a lot of time with like

1:17:16

different men because I don’t always spend time with anybody unless you’re in my circle you know yeah so I don’t think

1:17:24

that makes you prude though I feel like prude is

1:17:30

like I don’t know prud is like if you don’t want to call a penis a penis you want to call it

1:17:39

like um a member or like something I

1:17:44

don’t know what is like a like somebody’s pee pee like his PE like that

1:17:50

is a to do like or if you like refer to your life like vagina is your ladyes

1:17:57

garden that is like a prude thing to do you know like you don’t want to talk

1:18:04

about it you don’t think about it it’s not real it’s not happening like you’re afraid like I never felt like you were

1:18:11

prude because like you’re not like sex doesn’t scare you you just no I’m not up

1:18:17

height like I see to me there like up yeah that’s what I think like me

1:18:25

it’s like I feel like a prude person like DS to have sex with their

1:18:31

own husband and then it only happens like missionary style like for reproduction only and

1:18:39

like they literally like don’t like ever talk about it they can’t

1:18:46

like use the right part like names for their body parts like they’re embarrassed like that’s what I think of

1:18:53

when I think of prude you know I don’t feel like you give out that kind of pie but it’s okay if you

1:18:59

want to talk about like somebody’s quivering member in your lady garden and that’s what does it for

1:19:05

you if that’s who you are out there that’s fine like whatever but like yeah

1:19:12

if that’s who you are you do you okay enjoy that missionary member once a year

1:19:18

maybe a twice if it’s a special anniversary but I don’t feel like those are your Vibes girl

1:19:26

no no okay I don’t know what the word is but I I wasn’t in my mind I wanted to be

1:19:36

[ __ ] but in real life that was not going to happen because I don’t like

1:19:42

people so whatever that means I think there’s a lot of like that like you are

1:19:47

sexually liberated but sexually selective and I think that’s great yes I

1:19:53

like that yeah and I think you know when we were

1:19:59

[Music] younger the way that like sex was portrayed is kind of different like the

1:20:06

kids are more uptight now you know we know that they’re not doing it as much but like when we were young it seemed

1:20:11

like everybody was doing it all of the time and

1:20:18

like so I guess for me that’s what made me feel like Aude because I was like I’m

1:20:24

not having sex all of the time I am not one of these people and I don’t understand these people who are doing

1:20:30

all of this sex like how is this happening you know and I think it was

1:20:36

just like I don’t know it was the mentality of like that late 90s and the

1:20:43

2000s it was just a bunch of [ __ ] and we were all having a good time doing drugs and

1:20:48

partying yeah I did drug part and I partied but

1:20:55

yeah man no I feel like there was like a sexual

1:21:01

Liberation well I don’t know I feel like hookup culture got bigger in like the 2000s I feel like hookup culture has

1:21:08

always like existed it started to getting more like acceptable like and

1:21:13

then like in the 2000s especially once you got like dating apps like hookup culture was just like this what you do

1:21:20

and I think it went from like sexual Liberation and like a stigmatization to

1:21:25

being like Girl’s Gone Wild like you know it was like that there was a lot of that

1:21:32

kind of like media in our faces where it was like yeah it went from being like it

1:21:39

could be very healthy where it was like you are not ashamed of what you’re doing like you’re doing things that please you

1:21:47

and like you feel comfortable with and like that’s good that’s always a positive thing no matter what that is

1:21:54

but then I feel like the capitalist like portion of that snatched on and it became like women are expected to be

1:22:02

like these girls gone wild so I see like why there was

1:22:08

like you know for a lot of people and me too like that expectation to be like

1:22:14

sexually like always very like projecting sexual Liberation sexual

1:22:21

Freedom being like down to [ __ ] like that’s a lot you know what I mean that

1:22:27

and that did exist I think at the same time as some like really positives came out of it and like I think at the end of

1:22:35

the day like everybody just has like different sexual preferences and like I exaggerated and like too hard I just

1:22:43

like I’m just not one of those people that like thinks like sex means anything

1:22:49

like I can’t help it like yeah I mean that was the other thing like I never

1:22:55

understood like why there is so much power in like [ __ ] someone I just was

1:23:04

like I don’t care you know like yeah I

1:23:09

mean maybe it’s also because like we weren’t the type who wanted to get married and like have kids who were just

1:23:14

like we [ __ ] because it’s fun not because like it’s a need like

1:23:22

yeah different it was it’s just different it’s different I

1:23:28

really hope that the younger kids can figure out a way to be like sexually liberated and

1:23:35

unashamed without having to feel like that they have to be like sexually performative and like always down to

1:23:43

[ __ ] the way that like I feel like there was like pressure when we were growing

1:23:49

up you know it went from being like you were like really [ __ ] if you were always down to [ __ ] to being like you

1:23:56

have to be down to [ __ ] otherwise you’re like not cool or you’re not like yeah you’re

1:24:04

not like whatever you know what I mean right am I making any sense you know

1:24:11

totally I the thing that I feel bad for

1:24:16

the kids now is like okay we always had porn but not just like available to us

How Modern P*rn Sets Unrealistic Standards for Consent

1:24:25

at all times and I think because these kids they see

1:24:30

porn younger and porn is not even what porn used to be like there was

1:24:37

Hardcore and that was one thing but then you know there was like regular porn you

1:24:43

little dick sucking you know whatever but porn now is just like a different

1:24:49

animal and like people need to remember it’s not [ __ ] real like how they

1:24:54

[ __ ] porn is not how people actually [ __ ] they [ __ ] on

1:25:00

screen they for camera angles and to be graphic in like the most graphic way

1:25:07

that they can be and I think that like I think it’s messing with kids

1:25:15

because they’re like is that what I’m supposed to do you know I mean I know I think that

1:25:21

like [ __ ] with everybody yeah absolutely I think it sucks with

1:25:28

everybody because even back then I was just like like what you know like some of

1:25:35

that I don’t know I I felt like similar pressures about certain things

1:25:41

younger but I feel it gets like worse now cuz like any kind of porn that you want is like accessible at any time yeah

1:25:50

that’s and like that’s fine F if like you watch

1:25:55

porn like I think a lot of us watch porn yeah but it’s like there’s more of it to

1:26:02

consume and it’s like constant and like these people need to be competitive so

1:26:07

like these companies are going to keep putting out videos or making them more and more of whatever is selling so it

1:26:14

just seems like the Norms some of the Norms can come out of there and like

1:26:19

it’s fine to have fantasies and stuff but you do need to realize like what is reality and like at the end of the day

1:26:26

like there’s never been a plumber in my house that I’ve ever ever thought about

1:26:32

having sex with yeah there’s also never been a pizza delivery driver I’ve ever

1:26:37

wanted to have sex with and um yeah I

1:26:43

really hate it when guys try and stick their dick in my ass with no lube without

1:26:48

asking I’m like no that’s terrible SP just a little spit here

1:26:55

literally like yeah you see that in porn all the time people being like Oh yeah

1:27:02

I’m like just gonna stick it in this chick’s ass well yeah that’s cuz they have like cheesy music playing and like

1:27:10

it’s not fun to have a conversation while people are [ __ ] but like in reality somebody needs to stop and be

1:27:16

like hey is it okay if I play with your ass a little bit and i’ be like no I really hate that and they’d be like okay

1:27:22

that’s fine that is like what

1:27:30

happen I think that like because everything is accessible and you you can

1:27:37

see so many different things that people [Music]

1:27:44

don’t you know that the adventure of sex

1:27:49

um I don’t know it’s hard to say because you know I’ve been married them for a long time but

1:27:56

you it get to explore with your partner and whatever but like if you’re already

1:28:02

watching hardcore stuff and that is what you start with what are you gonna

1:28:08

explore like you know it’s only going to get C like more hardcore from there and

1:28:15

I think that we were lucky you know growing up and we did because like it

1:28:20

wasn’t it just wasn’t like that you know it was like you just start with ass

1:28:26

pounding you know like we had like [ __ ] you remember like HBO had the

1:28:34

like taxi cab confessions like real so you got little you got information and

1:28:41

like you got to see into people’s sex lives but you weren’t

1:28:47

showing you know fake titties and this fake giant ass and these ginormous dicks

1:28:54

that like would not make sense for real you [Laughter]

The Cervix has Entered the Chat

1:29:00

know wom don’t want a 12in [ __ ] like

1:29:06

that hits the cervix and that hurts that hurts really bad when somebody bottoms out on

1:29:14

the cervix I remember like the first time it happened to me I was

1:29:20

like I was like having a great [ __ ] time and just started

1:29:27

screaming not know what had happened and I was like what does it hurt inside my

1:29:33

belly button I was like what does it hurt so

1:29:38

bad it’s got to be the equivalent of a guy getting kicked in the balls like cuz

1:29:45

it’s like you double over in pain it’s an radiating pain too that

1:29:52

takes a long time to go way and it’s almost like if someone were

1:29:58

to hit like a really painful gong inside your body and you have to deal with

1:30:03

those like sound waves like radiating out like oh my God yeah

1:30:10

dude yeah getting bottomed out on [ __ ]

1:30:16

sucks and like it’s [Laughter]

1:30:22

always oh yeah that is the

1:30:27

worst how do we wind up so painful we were going to talk about the New

1:30:33

Apostolic Apostolic Reformation I think um I think this is just the vagina

1:30:40

episode probably one of many future vagina

1:30:45

episodes I love it is it women’s history month is it is oh my God our women

1:30:54

History Month uh episode I love

1:30:59

this vaginas blood

1:31:04

cervixes we have it all weird

1:31:10

gynecological procedures we have sexual

1:31:16

mishaps we have we have it all it’s yeah this is great this is [ __ ] awesome

1:31:25

dude like well um yeah I feel like you know something that you were saying

1:31:32

about like exploring with a partner and that’s like what makes it fun I feel

1:31:38

like that’s so true because like like I think like sex just gets

What Do We Consider Real Intimacy?

1:31:44

better like the better you get to know somebody especially like in in the

1:31:49

context but I do feel like there is something that they don’t show him porn

1:31:56

and that is when like sex gets like really [ __ ]

1:32:01

funny and like you can both be like in very compromising positions and

1:32:07

something like stupid happens and you both start laughing so hard and it’s

1:32:14

like not even weird right and I feel like you can only do

1:32:21

that with a partner yeah I feel like that is like a true intimacy

1:32:28

is when you’re like in a compromising position being intimate and like

1:32:34

something absolutely ridiculous happens or you realize how ridiculous you look and you like just both start laughing

1:32:41

your asses off oh yeah when it gets like too

1:32:47

[ __ ] serious and you’re like hold on why are we being so serious right now

1:32:54

it’s really funny I don’t know man like just I feel

1:32:59

like weird things can [ __ ] happen like sometimes when

1:33:04

you’re you know getting shaky I just that’s just so

1:33:10

cringe you’re [ __ ] somebody like there’s like any number of like weird

1:33:15

funny high jinkx like slapstick comedy things that could happen and like if you

1:33:22

can really like laugh about that with your partner I feel like that’s like true intimacy and I feel like that’s

1:33:29

something that you can’t you never see in porn there’s no such thing as like slapstick pornography which actually

1:33:36

that sounds really fun like pornographic comedy like that

1:33:43

sounds really fun actually why is that not a genre of porn

1:33:50

um I don’t know you don’t see that in porn and that’s like I think like when

1:33:55

you know you’re having like really good sex with a person it’s when you’re just like this is

1:34:01

to funny absolutely okay well I hope you guys enjoyed our vagina episode happy

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women month happy women’s month may your cervix be pink and young and Youthful

1:34:17

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